Your 20’s Are Your Selfish Years.


Hey Guys,

I’m at the point at the moment where I feel totally lost.

I know what I want and it’s pretty much the same as every other person. The only issue is the fact everyone else seems to be doing it right now and I’m not ready for that.

I’m 26, I work weird hours and late nights but I love my job.

I keep getting asked, when are you having kids, when are you buying a house, when are you going to make something of yourself, But who says I haven’t?

I’m not stuck in a job i hate to pay the bills, I’m not forcing myself out of bed in the morning and rolling into an office and working 9 till 5, Monday to Friday.

I moved out before and I wasn’t ready. It took me over a year to realise this and I ended up making myself ill, so now I’m sitting here explaining myself to people when i shouldn’t need to. I want to save, be comfortable and move out with the right person instead of rushing into it.

As for kids, I’m 26. Who said i have to have kids right now? I don’t see it as a written rule anywhere.

I don’t understand older generations. Why is everything set in stone, everything you do has to be a certain way, in a certain order. Boyfriend – House – Marriage – Kids. You have to look a certain way to be accepted and that isn’t okay.

This year i’ve grown apart from people that i thought i’d be friends with forever, purely cause they found me selfish when it came to not putting them first etc. These are people i’d always put first before, but its tiering. No one needs to continue friendships and relationships with people that are completely one way, it isn’t fair and it doesn’t need to be done. Now I finally realise it isn’t who you’ve known the longest it really is who’s always been there for you when you need them.
I’ve met people this year and I’m so grateful. One of them even classes me as family. I haven’t even known him a year yet, but i know if i ever needed advice he’s a text away and he knows that thats vice versa.

I work in events, and over the Summer when were planning freshers I’m always super excited and this year is no exception. I have 3 different Facebook accounts, 2 work and 1 purely personal. All over the personal account everyones getting married and having kids, some of the people i went to school with are on their 3rd kid, and heres me sitting here wondering who we’ve got headlining freshers..

I’ve been really worried for the last couple of months (Since my birthday in Feb) because I turned 26. Am i too old? Am i supposed to of done other stuff by now?

Last night i went for dinner with my friend Charlie. Charlie is lovely, we don’t talk that much because she lives her life and i live mine, but we know whenever we need each other we’re there. I was talking to her about things too, she’s really into traveling and stuff. She helped me realise that actually, i’m doing the exact right thing – what makes me happy and that thats all that matters at the moment.

I like my job, I like seeing my friends, spending my weekends with my boyfriend and my family. I like random long weekends away and eating way to much food. NON of this means i need to rush in to anything just because its all over social media and older generations are telling me repeatedly, about what is and isn’t okay at my age.

As selfish as it is, people say your 20’s are your selfish years, so i guess this means it’s okay for me to be selfish and do things that I find fun and to enjoy my work and my life just the way it is at the moment.

If you want to book that flight? Do it. You want to go and explore somewhere new? Do it. Go order way too many clothes you probably don’t need and then moan you have nothing to where. Go for lunch, make it take hours. Stop putting a time on doing things, you don’t need to time what you’re doing! (This place at 11am, this place at 4am etc.) I’m the worlds WORST with time keeping, so just chill.

 The only person stopping you is yourself (and maybe your bank balance.)

Bees xo



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3 thoughts on “Your 20’s Are Your Selfish Years.”

  1. You’ll get there, Bees… You have a good head on your shoulders and the important people in your life will always be there no matter where the journey takes you. Keep on keeping on!

  2. YES girl! What a great message behind this post. Your 20’s are a time to explore and find yourself! If you’re debating about doing something – just do it!

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